A friend once asked me this question.
"Would you rather be with the one you love or would you rather be with the one who loves you?"
We all know this is based on our own perceptions. Yet, i believe that the way we love another also shows who we are.
How sure are we that if we started a relationship with someone who loves us (but we do not love them), we would learn to give as much as we received at the start of the relationship? Although many arguments arise about the ending, I always believe that people who continually receive would continue receiving, maybe to an extent that we will one day take everything given to us for granted. There are two types of people in this world, those that give, and those that receive. There are grey areas within, but we all know we are more skewed to one side. As time goes by, the one giving is bound to get tired, and will not want to give anymore. You, on the other hand, have gotten used to the receiving. The sudden withdrawal by your partner is bound to leave you uncontented. Quarrels will follow and that's where the relationship is heading towards, downhill. Even the strongest love would waver if there is no return.
Being with the one you love is a choice. Its an arduous journey because you risk losing everything, including yourself. You would start circling your world around him/her. You face a much higher risk of being heartbroken because you opened your heart. In the game of love, you lose. But people like you tell yourself that between love and pride, you choose love. Because love is a beautiful thing. it gives you the strength to continue no matter how hard your life is. In the end, you are often the one who decides if this is what you really want, and when it is time to move on, you get up and move, stronger than how you were before the start of the relationship. More independent, more sure and certain of what you needed and wanted.
There's no such thing as unconditional love, because things would get to a point where you would want more than you have received. When expectations are not met, we get disappointed, and disappointments would slowly turn into dissatisfaction against the other.
Often, we would end up losing the one who loves us, and we regret as time goes by and we meet many others who never treat us as well. We want to turn back the clock, and reverse everything, but we all fail to realize that some things gone will never return. A heart once broken would not allow itself to be mended. pretty sad but true. as much as we hate to admit it, we hide into a shell that protects us so well, build walls to protect ourselves, only to hurt others in the process.
A relationship is a two way street. There's no room for a third party or all will be lost. Neither is there a way out because the only way out is a break up. If one party stops trying, the other would eventually stop too, because the amount of hurt and effort that one puts in is not enough to salvage a love that has been lost.
爱与被爱都是一种幸福的选择，只是看你选哪一个而已。
I ever watched a show, and i believe in this statement strongly.
“在爱情的过程里面，有一个人是一直站在付出比较多一点的那一方。所以受伤，嫉妒，开心，欢笑，所有爱情的感觉，我们都比对方多了一倍。当然伤害业会多了一倍。不过这些现在对方都感觉不到了，全部都留给我们承受。不过也正因为我们比别人多了一份爱，才有力量在伤痛中重新站起来。”
We should never take love given to us for granted, because the time will come one day where we will regret what we have not cherished.
